I have always been the type of person who can only start something when it “makes sense” — on a Monday, the first day of a new month, New Years, when my house is spotless (LOL). Can you relate? I’ve realized more and more since taking on new tasks that I am the worst at that and find myself frustrated at the end of the day because I didn’t even start on what I needed to accomplish because I spent all day “preparing”. The old Hannah would’ve won this day so hard because it’s the first day of the month on a MONDAY! BUT, new Hannah is going to win this day. And if I lose the next four days, I’ll start over on the fifth day. No more waiting, no more wasting time.
A couple weekends ago I had the opportunity to virtually tune into our annual Rodan+Fields convention and as Mel Robbins’ put it, there will literally always be an excuse not to do (whatever your thing is) and how true is this? Watching all of the videos and feeling all of the energy radiating through my computer screen seriously lit me on fire. I exceeded my goals for the month and I just wanted to do MORE. We come up with excuses because we’re afraid. As soon as you stop letting fear get in the way, you will have everything you want.
Mel Robbins also shared with us her 5 second rule. Count 5-4-3-2-1 & jump up and do whatever it is that you have to do before your mind stops you. I can’t tell you how many days I’ve sat around waiting, not sure for what, but just waiting. Waiting and not doing and those were the days that quickly turned into the months that I wasn’t reaching my goals or doing enough of what I love.
I don’t want this fire to die, and I don’t want you to lose yours either because you were made for more. These are the things I’ve clung to and they’ve kept this fire alive and they’ve kept me striving for more and wanting to be more:
Make time for Jesus. When I find myself slipping through the cracks, I simultaneously find myself being less successful, failing in my roles, and I suddenly become intolerant. That’s not me. I actually sort of pride myself on my high tolerance level… I’ve taught myself to find a way; watch an online sermon, read a favorite passage, journal, or put in a pair of headphones and blast that Jesus music. That’s what I am doing as we speak because it’s been a day…
WASH YOUR FACE. I don’t care if your plan is to sit on the couch all day, just wash your face. I’ve learned the value of taking care of your skin and if it’s the one thing you do for yourself, don’t stop. There is so much to be said for just feeling good.
Do something that makes you happy. Do something for you. I was never concerned with self care or self love until a couple of weeks ago. It’s an actual necessity, friends. I don’t ever get much of a break, in fact I don’t get one at all, so I take advantage of nap times. I watch an episode of Gilmore Girls. I write. I put make up on for funsies. I read or take a bath. I know for all of the mamas reading this that sometimes it doesn’t seem that easy, but I am challenging you to find something and don’t let that notorious mom guilt get in the way or the piles of laundry taking over your house get in the way because trust me, they’ll be there when you come back. I have struggled with mom guilt but I’ve had to do my best to let go of it because I’ve found that when I take care of myself, I’m a better mom. And a better wife.
Read a book or listen to a Podcast. Not even a year ago I would’ve laughed in your face if you told me to read a book or listen to a podcast. Oh how times have changed. I am OBSESSED. I am reading two books right now, digging deep into a challenging devotional with my sweet friend Lauren, and podcasts are more my go-to when I’m prepping dinner (we all know I’m not actually cooking the dinner — praise the Lord for a husband who cooks & is good at it too) 😉 This keeps me encouraged and striving for more.
Write down your “why”. I have a lot on my plate most days and I’ve had to gradually train myself to set more realistic goals and take things as they come. When I have something on my mind I want it now, but that is not how life works, especially when you have more than one main focus. When I joined Rodan+Fields, the first question I was asked was “why?” No one had ever asked me this before and I had never thought to ask myself that either. I had to dig deep because I knew that this method of chasing dreams and reaching goals wouldn’t work if this why of mine was broad. So I encourage you to dig a little deeper and write down why you are doing what you’re doing. Why your goals are what they are. Why you are working so hard. Why you started what you started. Keep writing it down as a reminder to not stop even when fear gets in the way, even when you’re tired, even when you don’t think it’s working.
My greatest regret is letting constant fear get in the way of what I want. The fear of what others might think, the fear of failing (what a joke). Gauge & I have had a few conversations recently about fear and we both decided that one of my biggest weaknesses is being afraid of failure. If you are failing, then at least you are doing something! If I’m not failing, then I am not doing what I need to be doing. This month I am challenging myself to let go of that fear and move forward, even if it means failing a few times.
“For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” Isaiah 41:13
The devotional I am working on is 100 Days to Brave by Annie F. Downs & you guys, it is challenging, but it is also equally as inspiring. This has challenged me to be more brave in my marriage and more brave in my business. There is no recipe for bravery or courage, but it is inside each of us. One of my favorite quotes from this book so far is “Brave people don’t stop hearing the whispers of fear. They hear the whispers but take action anyway.” WOW.
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Let go of the fear that is in the way of what you want. Let what it is that you love set your heart on fire. I promise that you will love where you end up. Will you be brave with me!?